Have you driven a car on a highway without car insurance?
Did you wear a seatbelt the last time you were in a car?
Do you lock your doors before bedtime?
Did you buy homeowners insurance?
Do you ensure that your children have medical coverage?
These questions point to obvious answers about everyday situations that carry potentially life-altering risks, and rarely do we ever consider gambling our outcomes with the above scenarios. The same caution should apply to another life-altering situation: marriage, which brings with it the possibility of divorce.
The equivalent of a seatbelt or insurance for marriage is a prenuptial or postnuptial agreement, either of which may protect you from the "blunt force trauma" of divorce. A prenup is signed before the wedding vows. A postnup includes the same material in the contract, except that it is signed after the wedding vows. The difference between the two documents rests in the timing of the signatures.
In popular culture, the prenup or postnup directs outcomes for financial holdings and tangible property, such as homes and cars. This view of nuptial agreements is accurate, as prenups and postnups cover these issues; however, this view is incredibly limited. Nuptial agreements can also help couples to navigate the most emotionally painful and cognitively tricky time in a troubled relationship. A prenup or postnup can address behaviors during the most volatile period of separation.
If you and your spouse decide to consider ending your marriage, you might not rush into divorce right away, but you both will likely opt to pursue separation. One of you will leave the home that you share together.
Who leaves?
At JustPrenups, we rely on decades of experience to examine each spouse's unique situation so that this question is already answered and finalized in writing.
Our template for postnups and prenups addresses other questions that are context-specific so that you don't have worry about such issues during your most conflicted times:
Our contracts settle additional complications that the process of separation introduces:
Even though the partners decided upon one moving out, the marriage itself may or may not be over. The marriage may be rehabbed through time apart, or it may become irretrievably broken. Your behavior throughout this time determines much of the outcome, including whether the couple considers reconciliation.
Respectful, patient consideration of the other's needs is key here. Assumptions about the other person must be left at the door, no matter how long you have known each other. Can toxicity in your relationship be overcome? Are you both allowed to be yourselves in a way that doesn't negate the other person? Neither of you can rush the process of building new communication methods and creating new boundaries for your behaviors, and many turn to the guidance of a therapist, a coach, a religious leader, or some trusted third party.
When touchy logistical decisions are already made, there is less opportunity to fight over them. Our prenuptial and postnuptial agreements deal with the planning above and more so that you and your partner can invest energy on deciding your futures together or apart. The lists above are not exhaustive, as your contract is customized to you as a couple. The separation period in a relationship is delicate, and that's why JustPrenups seeks to be as concrete as possible. The "rules of engagement" are written in your best times so that your troubled times do not needlessly introduce more harm.
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